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Inside The Heart Of A Woman Broken By A Narcissist

Saturday, August 18, 2018 Break -ups, Churches, Dating, Diet, Divorce, Exercise, Geaux Girl, Relationships, Woman's Health Permalink

Reposted from: https://kiddy.org.uk/inside-the-heart-of-a-woman-broken-by-a-narcissist/

By Kiddy First –
June 29, 2018

 

He came into her life like the most welcome guest. He was everything she ever wished for…or at least he seemed to be. He walked through her life spreading his charm everywhere. That unexplainable charm… nobody could help themselves but fall for it.

And he left damaging footprints. He stepped on her self-confidence and self-worth so proudly, without any fear that he might harm her. And he did. He created a total mess in her head.
He set a fire and watched it burn. A narcissist broke her soft, fragile heart.
Now, even though this strong woman broke free from that toxic relationship, she can’t put the broken pieces of her heart together. She is still the victim of all the painful memories of the narcissistic abuse.

She feels empty and scared.
She feels lost. She can’t see through the darkness and find the light. She can’t choose the right path. This woman is broken in her thoughts, feelings, and emotions.
She can’t escape her memories; they have been haunting her everywhere. She fears them. She fears her new life. She is even scared to feel, so she avoids everything but fear. Her fear becomes her best company.

She doesn’t trust anyone.
All those manipulations and tortures killed her last bit of hope for a better tomorrow. She lost her faith in people. She is scared to trust anyone. She already trusted and gave her heart to a narcissist.
What did he do? He played a disrespectful game with her heart. She betrayed her trust. Therefore, she is afraid to share her life with someone else.
She is afraid to love again.

This woman believed in a true love, but she was never loved. She was manipulated. She was humiliated. Because of that, she feels she doesn’t deserve to be loved. She feels incapable to give love.
He heart was torn apart. How can a broken heart flutter again with the same warmth? Love has brought her nothing more than pain.

She needs someone who will heal the wounds of her heart.
This woman needs someone who will accept and respect her. A helping hand that will lead her through the dark storm; someone who will fill her heart with love and her spirit with faith and hope.

This woman needs someone with whom she will forget the past and enjoy all the beauty of the present moment. She needs someone who will heal her broken heart and make her whole again.
She needs someone who will show her what real love looks like.
This woman needs someone who will be with her through thick and thin, someone who will never give up on her no matter what happens.
She needs someone who will be everything that the narcissist wasn’t.

To all women whose heart has been broken by a narcissist: You deserve to be loved the right way. Believe in yourself. Keep your head up and your wonderful heart strong.

7 Things to Know Before Dating the Girl With a Soft Heart but an Anxious Mind

Thursday, February 1, 2018 Break -ups, Churches, Dating, Diet, Divorce, Exercise, Geaux Girl, Relationships, Woman's Health Permalink

Reposted from: http://www.puckermob.com/moblog/7-things-to-know-before-dating-the-girl-with-a-soft-heart-but-an-anxious-mind
By Erica Alisse

To have a soft heart means that she has a big heart.
She’s full of compassion, empathy, and vulnerability. You’ll never find a girl who cares about you as deeply as she will.
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It can be hard to be a soft-hearted girl in this tough world.
This is especially true when her soft heart is deepened by an anxious mind. When the two are combined, her vulnerability makes her overly sensitive and restless. She worries more than she should, and she feels more intensely than most.
It may be hard at times, but she’s definitely worth it.
So, before you date this girl, here are a few things you should know:
1. She’s incredibly fragile. Little things feel monumental to her. Something that may seem petty or insignificant to you may mean the world to her. So please remember to be sensitive, and try to see her side of things.
2. She’s not very good at expressing how she feels. She may try to, but the words never seem to come out right. She’s so scared of hurting your feelings that she tends to hold back, and it often gets misinterpreted or misconstrued.
3. So before you overreact or get mad at her, remember what’s in her heart. Know that she would never ever intentionally do or say anything to hurt you, so please give her the benefit of the doubt before making assumptions.

4. To her, you’re her whole world. When a girl like that falls in love with you, she falls hard. It’s a genuine, life-altering kind of love. You can break her heart with a single comment or action if you aren’t careful.
5. She’s terrified you are going to leave at any moment. She knows she can be hard to deal with at times, and deep down she’s scared she isn’t worth your love. She needs you to remind her regularly how you feel.
6. She gets attached easily. She has a huge heart, and it doesn’t take much for her to let you in it. This goes for everyone and everything she encounters. Her heart bleeds for anyone struggling or hurting, and she’s likely to feel that pain as her own.
7. The worst thing you can do to her is make her feel neglected. She feels the hurt in every corner of her heart. Don’t ever yell or walk out on her, and above all, never give her the silent treatment or push her away. She will think you’re leaving for good, and it will break her heart in a way she may never fully recover from.
So please, if you do find this girl, take care of her precious heart. She is a rare jewel that you won’t be lucky enough to find twice.
Hold her tight and protect her from all the things in this world that might destroy it. Guard her heart with your own, and never ever let her go.

What It’s Really Like To Break Up With A Narcissist

Thursday, February 1, 2018 Break -ups, Churches, Dating, Diet, Divorce, Exercise, Geaux Girl, Relationships, Woman's Health Permalink

reposted from: https://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-27078/what-its-really-like-to-break-up-with-a-narcissist.html

What It’s Really Like To Break Up With A Narcissist

Annice Star

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February 1, 2017

When you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, everything is about him (or her—but for this article we’ll use “him” as an inclusive pronoun). It’s confusing and exhausting. One day you get it together to leave. You’re finally ready to take the steps required to make your life and energy revolve around you and your needs again. Hooray!
While this is an exciting time, and you are to be congratulated on moving in a positive direction, you also need to mentally and emotionally prepare yourself for the adjustment period right after your breakup, which is likely to present some challenges.
All breakups are difficult, but this type is often the hardest. You feel up, then down, over and over—it’s as much of a roller coaster as your relationship itself. Understanding the patterns you are likely to encounter can really help during the early months after a breakup with an emotionally manipulative person. Here’s a list of 10 common patterns plus ways to cope with each one:
1. Obsessing
Trying to have a relationship with a narcissist is nearly impossible, so you spent a lot of time analyzing his behavior and character to try and make sense of the curve balls he kept throwing you. After you leave your abusive relationship, this habitual pattern of analysis will continue until you force it to stop.
What works for me:
Whenever thoughts about what’s wrong with my ex arise, I remind myself that I am no longer concerned with him and force my mind to think about something else. I do this again and again. Most experts say it takes three months to change a habit.

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6 Reasons That Prove Mixed Signals Do Not Exist And You’re Just In Denial

Tuesday, September 2, 2014 Break -ups, Dating, Relationships Permalink

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 Article from: http://elitedaily.com/dating/6-reasons-mixed-signals-exist/712555/
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6 Reasons That Prove Mixed Signals Do Not Exist And You’re Just In Denial
He’s giving me mixed signals; it’s so frustrating. No, my dear, what’s frustrating is the fact that you are so amazing, yet wasting your time with someone who isn’t into you at all. Mixed signals do not exist. It is a concept that people, who can’t tell whether or not a prospect is interested or not, bemoan. Newsflash: If you can’t tell, it almost always means that the person is not interested – and you should view that as a clear signal, not a foggy one. Whether we are looking for something casual or a serious relationship, inconsistency and supposed mixed signals bother most of us. To me, deciphering mixed signals simply sounds like a whole lot of wasted time and effort – especially if they don’t really exist and you are failing to see the bigger picture. Here are six reasons why there is no such thing as mixed signals in the dating world:

1. Actions Speak Louder Than Words

If someone’s words (or text messages) lead you to believe that he or she is into you, but the actions prove otherwise, listen to the actions. Do not let yourself get confused because someone said “Hey gorgeous, I’d love to see you sometime soon” but the person doesn’t actually ever make plans to see you. Actions speak louder than words.

2. Players Only Love You When They’re Playing

This point sort of speaks for itself. A female or male player might pretend to be interested in you or even pretend to care about you because he or she might have some sort of ulterior motive. If someone is playing you, it can create a false sense of intimacy. Eventually, the true colors will show and it will be around that time when you start complaining about mixed signals. Most of the time, you can spot these types a mile away; always listen to your instincts because you should be able to tell if someone is genuine or not. Again, consider the actions if you need proof, one way or another.

3. When You Know, You Know

When someone is really interested in you, you will know. It will be clear. There will not be mixed signals. When this happens, it will feel effortless, natural and easy. The anxiety sustained from wondering and waiting will be nonexistent. You will hear from this person often and you will not feel played.

4. Inconsistency Is Not Something You Should Deal With

Whether you’re looking for something casual or something more serious, if someone is inconsistent with you and it is bothering you, move on. For example, if someone you’re interested in contacts you on a regular basis and then drops off the face of the earth for a few weeks and then repeats the same cycle, try not to get too frustrated. Simply do not invest any more of your time. In poker terms, fold. “Mixed signals” such as these are not worth your time and effort.

5. Most People Don’t Want To Put All Of Their Eggs In One Basket

You may be confusing mixed signals with someone who is simply not focused on just you. From time to time, this person’s focus drifts to the other people he or she is seeing – and that’s simply this person’s prerogative. Unless you’re looking for a relationship, you should accept that the focus won’t always be on you, at all times.

6. The Secret Lover Is Not A Thing

If someone is all about you in private, but is reluctant to introduce you to his or her friends or family or take you out in public, there could be trouble in paradise. If someone can’t show any affection whatsoever unless you’re alone, that’s not mixed signals, that’s just a red flag.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 Article from: http://elitedaily.com/dating/6-reasons-mixed-signals-exist/712555/
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