8 Ways Your Life Gets Better When You Stop Going Out All The Time

Reposted from: http://www.bustle.com/articles/55068-8-ways-your-life-gets-better-when-you-stop-going-out-all-the-time

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I recently went to a music festival with my cousin who is 22, and my brothers who are 19 and 21, respectively. I’m flirting with 30, so I knew going into the experience that we have some slightly differing priorities. On the second night of the festival, I decided to go to bed at midnight, which led to me facing chastisement at the mercy of the younger people. “You’re so lame,” they said. But in my elderly zen state, I simply chuckled. I explained to them that I’ve been to every party already. And one thing I learned from that is that every party is the same.

The other important lesson I’ve learned is that you get to choose how satisfied you are with the level of fun you’ve had, and that it’s okay to reach a quota on said fun, and that as you get older, you stop feeling like you constantly need to be seeking more fun once your cup is already full of fun. Or that if you’re not having fun doing something, you can simply stop doing it, rather than desperately trying to turn it into fun. So it follows that your life naturally starts getting better once you stop going out all the time. Especially because moderation is the spice of life; an exciting party lifestyle can be just as monotonous and routine as a sober one. Here are 8 reasons not going out all the time can really benefit your life.

1. You save money

I think the most immediate and noticeable benefit of not going out every night, whether it be to restaurants or bars or both, is that you save so much money. You can still have nice things like delicious food and wine in the comfort of your own home, but you’ll save a small fortune by cooking yourself and not being in environments where drinks cost $10 a pop. (You can have $3 bottles of Trader Joe’s wine instead!) Not going out also means you wont be getting drunk and offering to buy rounds of drinks for people who will never get you back, and you wont be wasting money on unnecessary cab rides or entry fees.

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10 Toxic People You Shouldn’t Bring With You Into The New Year

Reposted from: http://elitedaily.com/life/toxic-people-new-year/879975/

Written by:

Théo Gosselin

Can you believe that it’s already December? This year has flown by in the blink of an eye and we’re on the verge of yet another year — a year full of possibility.

What you will accomplish next year greatly depends on the people you surround yourself with. Or, in other words, it greatly depends on which people you decide not to surround yourself with.

When bringing in the new year, be sure not to bring all your garbage with you. Leave these toxic individuals in 2014; you’ll feel much lighter, allowing you to get a great running start on the year to come.

1. The people who make your life more stressful.

Stress isn’t necessarily a bad thing — in fact, it’s what you make it out to be. If you believe stress is bad for you, then it will be bad for you. If you use stress as the motivator it is, to motivate you to act, then stress can actually be rather healthy.

However, you should aim to only be stressed by situations and not by people. If you have people in your life who are constantly managing to stress you out, that’s your mind telling you — and trying to motivate you — to remove them from your life.

Life is stressful as it is. You don’t need someone making it more so.

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“I Love You” – The Three Most Abusive Words Spoken By a Narcissist

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I Love You! These are the most abusive and hideous words that the Narcissist uses to abuse their targets/victims!

The effects of emotional or psychological abuse falls under the category of ‘traumatic shock’ a well-known and accepted theory. The definition defines it as this; any event that destroys our internalized set of assumptions patterns and understandings that we all use to operate in the world every day. It is saying that we become traumatized by one extreme action or a set of actions that come into our lives. These actions are usually associated with something we have never experienced before personally and very negative that has impacted and jolted our reality.

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The 5 Stages of Loss and Grief

Reposted from: http://psychcentral.com/lib/the-5-stages-of-loss-and-grief/000617

Written  By Julie Axelrod

The stages of mourning and grief are universal and are experienced by people from all walks of life. Mourning occurs in response to an individual’s own terminal illness, the loss of a close relationship, or to the death of a valued being, human or animal. There are five stages of normal grief that were first proposed by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in her 1969 book “On Death and Dying.”

In our bereavement, we spend different lengths of time working through each step and express each stage with different levels of intensity. The five stages do not necessarily occur in any specific order. We often move between stages before achieving a more peaceful acceptance of death. Many of us are not afforded the luxury of time required to achieve this final stage of grief.

The death of your loved one might inspire you to evaluate your own feelings of mortality. Throughout each stage, a common thread of hope emerges: As long as there is life, there is hope. As long as there is hope, there is life.

Many people do not experience the stages in the order listed below, which is okay. The key to understanding the stages is not to feel like you must go through every one of them, in precise order. Instead, it’s more helpful to look at them as guides in the grieving process — it helps you understand and put into context where you are.

All, keep in mind — all people grieve differently. Some people will wear their emotions on their sleeve and be outwardly emotional. Others will experience their grief more internally, and may not cry. You should try and not judge how a person experiences their grief, as each person will experience it differently.

1. Denial and Isolation

The first reaction to learning of terminal illness or death of a cherished loved one is to deny the reality of the situation. It is a normal reaction to rationalize overwhelming emotions. It is a defense mechanism that buffers the immediate shock. We block out the words and hide from the facts. This is a temporary response that carries us through the first wave of pain.

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11 Silly, Ridiculous Signs That Might Mean You’re In Love

Reposted from: http://elitedaily.com/dating/11-silly-ridiculous-signs-might-mean-youre-love/864846/

Written  by:

Underwear Tuesday

Have you ever been in love? A lot of us are terrified to be in love and will deny its truth, even if all the signs are there. Disney got it right with “I Won’t Say I’m In Love” from “Hercules.”

Even if you haven’t yet said the ever-dreaded L-word to your person, even if you’re not officially “together” and even if you have absolutely no intention to be in love, you very well might be.

Love can present itself in mysterious, ridiculous ways. There are things you might be doing or things that might be happening that make you think, “Hm, weird.” Guess what? These things could mean love:

1. He/she frustrates the living hell out of you, and yet you still tolerate him/her

This person may have not yet realized you’re always right (duh), and every time he or she does something stupid, you just want to shake his or her big, dumb head.

Half of the time, this person makes you want to scream, and you communicate this with passion in your voice. This person is a gigantic pain in your ass, but in the end, he or she is your pain in the ass.

No matter how frustrating this person gets, you never stop wanting to be with him or her. You’re beginning to realize the opposite of love isn’t hate, but rather, it’s indifference.

Hate and love are very similar. When you say, “Ugh, I hate you so much,” it’s not what you mean at all.

2. It doesn’t matter what you’re saying

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