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Written by: Megan Swiatkowski in Dating
There comes a point in life when a person thinks, “Wow, there are a lot of douchebags/bitches in the world and I’ve managed to date most of them.”
The world is so full of players and man-eaters, it’s easy to get lost in the game. It’s also easy to believe romance and chivalry are dead.
After all, the bad boys and bitches of the world are addicting! They are full of adventure; they don’t care what anyone else thinks, and they live life a little differently. The downside is they treat you like a frequently-used toilet plunger.
It starts with the little things, like maybe he doesn’t open the door for you, or she never listens to what you have to say.
Sometimes, she doesn’t text you back, but, hey, look! She just tweeted about Lady Gaga’s Oscar performance, so she’s definitely by her phone. Or, he’s only ever down to hang when it’s super late and you’ve both been drinking.
Your extensive experience with bad “relationships” has taught you to put up with the type of behavior that would make your mom or dad cringe.
But, then, someone comes in and shuffles the cards for your dating game.
He makes you question why on earth you put up with such awful treatment before. She baffles you when you expect her to pull some bitchy move and stomp all over your heart, but she doesn’t.
You see each other when it’s not late and you’re not drinking, and dare I say, you even go on a date!
Maybe it isn’t love (yet), and you won’t get married and have kids with this person, but he or she gave you a dose of reality, and man did it lead you to have quite a few epiphanies:
1. Wow, this person thinks I am worth something…
Maybe she doesn’t show it in big ways, but it’s impressive when she remembers something stupid you told her two weeks ago.
You think, “Wow. Someone actually thought what I was saying was important enough to store in the filing system of her brain.”
Or, maybe, you told him something deep, and he didn’t freak out or run away. Instead, he sat next to you and hugged you for a while.
You never have to lie to yourself that he’s good for you, or make excuses for her. This epiphany fills your heart with happiness and hope, two things that had been lacking for quite some time.
Slowly, you realize this person thinks you are special.
2. …Because I am.
Not only do you realize someone thinks you are special, but you also realize you are special.
You look in the mirror and start talking to yourself saying, “Hey, sexy.” It’s not that he or she gave you confidence, but he or she did help you realize exactly how strong and beautiful you are.
And, dang, now that you have this newfound self-love, you’ll never give it up.