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Written by: Nicole Weaver

Not all of us are naturally strong. Some have anxiety or are insecure, which easily puts cracks in your armor. So, how do you toughen up to gain the utmost confidence? Here are seven ways to mentally toughen you up!

1. They take control.

There are two types of people in the world: Those who believe in fate, and those who believe they have control over things. According to Inc, you should be the latter; stop worrying about things that happen to you and start making things happen for you.

2. They’re flexible.

Life doesn’t always go as planned. So, it’s better to be able to pivot when you need to! According to Forbes, being flexible means you’re open to the unexpected and won’t crumble when something inevitably changes.

3. They learn from their mistakes.

You can either choose to crumble from your mistakes, or make them tools for your future. Look at those slip ups as training and refrain from letting them define you. According to Inc, looking at these moments as training will toughen you up.

4. They create specific goals — then conquer them.

Sometimes, you’re mentally all over the places, because you have no direction. What are you doing? Why? When do you want to accomplish this? A Harvard study found that students who set goals tend to earn twice as much as those who had no goals. So, write down that goal, then reap the benefits.

5. They look for acceptance from themselves, not others.

Most of us want other people to like us, but strength comes from within. Ironically, many people don’t like you until you stop caring whether or not others like you. According toInc, that kind of strength is admirable, and your relationships become happier once you adopt that mindset.

6. They keep their stress in check.

Find out what helps you lower your stress level. Perhaps it’s tea, maybe it’s exercising, maybe it’s just setting aside alone time. But a study from New York University found that stress makes it harder for people to control their emotions. Want to lower your risk of bursting into tears at work? Get rid of that stress.

7. They let the little things roll off their back.

Stop sweating the small stuff. According to Inc, your mental strength is a finite supply. So, don’t wear yourself down. Although you should accept that you have control over your life, don’t turn into a control freak.

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Written by: Paul Hudson in Dating

Human beings are almost entirely governed by two instincts: desire and the need to avoid loss. We are loss-adverse animals who constantly want something.

The instinct to want and to avoid loss are so strong and so deeply ingrained in our psyches that we see little purpose to life outside of them.

Wanting to own and to hold on to things is the reason we believe life has value to us as individuals; if we were unable to keep things for ourselves, then we would find little reason to participate whatsoever.

The problem arises when people are more worried about satisfying their wants than they are of satisfying their instinct to avoid loss — when the scale tips in this direction, you have people who attain things they don’t need and then find it difficult to appreciate any of the things they already have.

Not being capable of appreciating the things in your life is one thing — a bad thing — but not being capable of appreciating the people in your life is another.

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Written by: Christian Heftel

Most people think about exercising in terms of how many times they work out per week, but some people want to up the ante and get their heart rate up more than once in a day. Working out twice a day has some potential benefits as well as some potential drawbacks. Here are 10 surprising facts you should know about exercising twice in one day.

1. Two-a-Days Can Be Safe

Some people assume exercising twice a day must be bad or unsafe. But if you do it right, this doesn’t have to be the case. According to John Mandrola MD, “two-a-day workouts can be especially useful, and if used wisely, might lead to safer more effective training.”

2. Rest Is Still Important

If you’re working out multiple times per day, you definitely need to make sure you get enough rest. Obviously, it’s good to give yourself some time between your workouts on any given day (some experts suggest waiting between four and six hours between your exercise sessions), and it is equally important to rest your muscle groups between days. For example, if you do a heavy leg workout one day, then even if you get other exercise sessions in the meantime, you probably don’t want to really tax your legs again before for a couple days.

Make sure you take at least one day completely off each week, and potentially more. Additionally, if you notice that you are growing more fatigued and sore over time, or that your ability to perform is decreasing, you may need to increase your amount of rest.

3. The Order of Exercise Matters

If you’re doing both high-intensity (like HIIT or strength training) and low-intensity exercises (like “regular” cardio), you should do the higher intensity work in your first session. It will likely be easier for you to give your all when you’re still fresh. Then, you can do the more endurance-based exercise later, when you’re tired.